When you’re first learning to tap into your feminine energy, it can be hard to know how to begin your journey. Because feminine energy isn’t about striving or proving your worth, the path to femininity isn’t always direct. While I can’t tell you what you should do to connect to your inner femininity, I can share some simple, peaceful rituals that have been supportive for me. Consider trying any idea that feels inspiring to you.
TeaMy morning cup of tea is one of my favorite parts of the day. The scent of tea leaves and bergamot rising into the air. The taste of cream and vanilla. The heat permeating my hands. Everything about making and enjoying tea encourages us to slow down and pay attention – two skills that are essential for connecting with your feminine energy. As someone who never developed a taste for coffee, tea gives me a little gentle caffeination to start my morning (or in the case of herbal teas, something soothing to wind down with in the evening). Drinking tea feels gentle and unhurried – a tranquil way to care for myself and enjoy the present moment.Morning RoutinesWhen I take the time to get clear on my desires, quiet my mind, and move slowly into the day, everything works better. You don’t have to create a complicated morning routine. Just set some time aside for yourself to be still and reflect. I like to journal about what I’m grateful for and what I desire in the mornings. I know from experience how hard it can be to prioritize time for yourself in the mornings. Whether you’re preparing for work, trying to get your family fed and started with their day (or both), mornings can feel like the beginning of an infinite thread of obligations. And if you’re tired in the mornings, waking up earlier than normal to make time for yourself feels punishing. There’s no one right way to approach your mornings. I would encourage you to remember that if you aren’t feeling good, no area of your life is benefitting from your full magic. I’ve found that, even if it feels selfish at the moment, focusing on my needs first allows me to be the best version of myself for the people around me. I like to integrate into my own mornings, including gratitude, manifestation, affirmations, and journal prompts. BodyworkIf you exist as a woman or feminine person in the world, chances are you sometimes feel like your whole existence is about giving to others. For me, treatments like massage are an incredible ritual for connecting with my body and allowing myself to be cared for. The experience of intentionally receiving care from someone else can be deeply healing. As I’ve manifested more abundance in my life, I’ve committed to having monthly massages as one of my self-care practices. I am so grateful to the talented and supportive massage therapists who help me to relieve stress and feel like my highest self. Of course, massages and other bodywork can be expensive. It’s definitely not a service I’ve been able to afford at every stage in my life. But I’ve found that I can often find local businesses that offer reasonable rates on bodywork services if I do a little research. I’ve also learned that prioritizing caring for myself makes my life more abundant in all ways.JournalingJournaling is one of my favorite and longest-standing feminine practices. I’ve been journaling in some capacity since I was five years old. Whether I’m making mood boards or reflecting through writing, journaling allows me to be creative while processing my feelings and building dreams for the future. If you’re new to journaling, you might find inspiration by using journal prompts. I offer free journal prompts on my resources page. Even after years of journaling, I still use journal prompts to direct my thoughts and encourage deep reflection in my practice.MeditationAs someone who was raised in a spiritual community, meditation or silent reflection has been a practice I’ve engaged in for most of my life. In my childhood and teenage years, this took the form of private prayer and devotional time. As I’ve gotten older, I tend to meditate on my favorite affirmations or desired feelings. While there are endless ways to approach or understand meditation, I think of it as clearing the waters of my mind. If you’ve ever stood in a muddy river or pond, you know that moving around in the water stirs up silt and debris and that the more you move, the more opaque and cloudy the water becomes.When I’m going through life this often feels like the perfect metaphor for my brain. All the thoughts, activities, and planning in my head stir up my mind until I feel overwhelmed. Meditation allows me to still the waters and let the debris sink to the bottom. Stillness gives me space to connect with my authentic self and clarify what I truly want.
Autumn 