6 Types of Self-Care & Ideas for Each One

 Self-care is a hot topic.

When we say the words “self-care”, our mind often shifts to face masks and bubble baths.

While that is one example of self-care, the true meaning goes much deeper than that.

There are actually 6 main types of self-care.

Much like the 7 areas of life, the 6 types of self-care are helpful to understand when prioritizing caring for yourself.

When you understand each different type of self-care, you can start to balance your self-care routine to make sure you’re hitting each area.

The different areas of self-care are all of immense importance, yet our common face-mask-and-bubble-bath idea of self-care neglects most of these areas.

Self-care is deep and complex.

Gaining an understanding of the 6 different types of self-care and activities within each self-care category is an important first step.

Let’s jump into understanding the different areas of self-care and how you can start practicing each one.

6 Different Types of Self-Care

1. Emotional Self-Care

Emotional self-care is just as it sounds… it can be achieved through activities that actively engage and connect with our emotions. Anything that requires you to recognize, feel, reflect on, or express an internal emotion is most likely a form of emotional self-care.

2. Physical Self-Care

Physical self-care is what we often think of when we hear the term “self-care”.

This is the bubble bath and face mask we talked about earlier.

But, simple everyday things also tend to your physical well-being. As a whole, your physical self-care is all about taking care of your physical health and well-being.

3. Mental Self-Care

Mental self-care is often confused with emotional self-care.

They do seem to overlap a little bit – but they are different.

Mental self-care refers to anything that actively engages your mind and stretches your brain. One great example of this is reading. We will dive into more examples later.

4. Social Self-Care

Social self-care is achieved by tending to your relationships.

Familial, romantic, platonic, etc. – all of our relationships affect our overall health and well-being.

Taking time to consciously and actively care for our relationships in any way is a form of social self-care.

5. Practical Self-Care

Practical self-care, which I often call productive self-care, is doing the mundane everyday tasks that your life requires.

By doing these tasks, you are helping free yourself from stress, overwhelm, or a stagnant life. I bet you never thought paying bills was self-care, but it is! That is an example of practical self-care.

6. Spiritual Self-Care

Spiritual self-care is another area of self-care that often gets mixed in with others.

Even though mental and emotional self-care seem similar, spiritual self-care is its very own type of self-care.

Spiritual self-care includes activities that encourage or require you to think bigger than yourself as you connect to the universe or, for some, a religious figure.

6 Ideas for Each Type of Self-Care

To give you a better understanding of how you can incorporate all areas of self-care into your life, here are 6 examples for each of the 6 types of self-care.

Emotional Self-Care Ideas

A form of self-care that requires feeling, addressing, expressing, or responding to your emotions.

  • Journaling about your emotions
  • Talking to a loved one about your emotions
  • Listening to emotional music
  • Going to therapy (online therapy is a great, less intimidating option!)
  • Creating art to express yourself
  • Crying, yelling, laughing, or otherwise externally expressing emotion

Physical Self-Care Ideas

A form of self-care that expresses care and attention for your physical well-being.

  • Joyful movement (walks, stretching, dancing, etc.)
  • Taking a bubble bath or a self-care shower
  • Getting enough rest each night
  • Drinking enough water throughout the day
  • Nourishing your body with nutritious foods (and enough food)
  • Skin care, face masks, hair care, self-tan, etc.

Mental Self-Care Ideas

A form of self-care that engages your mind and stretches your brain.

  • Doing a jigsaw puzzle
  • Reading a book
  • Writing a story
  • Playing a game
  • Watching a documentary
  • Playing brain games/puzzles

Social Self-Care Ideas

A form of self-care that nurtures the relationships in your life.

  • Calling a family member
  • Meeting a friend for lunch
  • Setting boundaries in your relationships
  • Cleaning out your social media (follow only positive accounts)
  • Go on a date
  • Understand your personal balance of social and alone time

Practical Self-Care Ideas

A form of self-care that involves maintaining a productive, successful, and well-managed life.

  • Changing your sheets
  • Taking an online course
  • Budget planning
  • Tidying your workspace/living environment
  • Planning your days/weeks
  • Staying on top of house chores

Spiritual Self-Care

A form of self-care that encourages you to think larger than yourself – your environment, the universe, higher powers, etc.

  • Practicing yoga
  • Meditation
  • Reading your tarot cards (or having them read)
  • Prayer
  • Going to a place of worship
  • Spending time outside to connect to your environment

Customize Your Types of Self-Care

Self-care is not a one-size-fits-all type of thing. In fact, it’s meant to be unique to each individual. That’s what makes it effective.

Customize your areas of self-care for your own life.

Know that you have complete and total freedom to shift your self-care practice to whatever fits your needs at any given moment.

Want to separate the practical self-care area into two categories – work and home?

Do it!

Don’t feel like spiritual self-care applies to you?

Replace it!

These 6 types of self-care and ideas for each area of self-care are intended to give you a baseline for building a self-care practice that works for you.

Ultimately, this will look a bit different for each individual.

Build your own balanced self-care routine to appeal to your wants, needs, and desires. That is the key to achieving true, effective self-care.

7 Tips on how to deal with rejection

 Rejection is a fact of life. 

No matter how successful, everyone will face this painful reality at some point. And while nothing can take away the sting of someone brushing you and all your qualities off, it doesn’t have to knock you for a loop. 

In fact, there’s little difference, neurologically speaking, between the physical pain of injury and the emotional ache of rejection on an MRI. 

Learning how to deal with rejection in a healthy fashion is a valuable life skill you can use in all facets of your life – personal, professional, and romantic.

Why it hurts to be rejected 

Being turned down by a friend, hiring manager, or potential romantic partner is painful. It’s called rejection trauma for a reason — the agony you feel is genuine. Whether you’re experiencing hurt caused by rejection or cutting your finger, the same area of your brain activates when you’re processing this information. 

Beyond the physical sensation, rejection also strikes at our need for acceptance and belonging. Humans are social creatures, and our desire to connect developed through evolution. Beginning when humans lived together as hunter-gatherer groups, individuals who easily integrated into the tribe were more likely to survive and reproduce.

Those that couldn’t forge close bonds with others were more likely to be abandoned or viewed as an outcast. Over time, the need to be included became hardwired into the human brain. When rejection happens, conditions don’t mesh with your evolutionary need, causing anxiety and self-doubt.

You’re not emotional or weak if you experience these feelings when someone rebuffs your presence. It’s biology. Your emotional reaction to personal disappointment isn’t under your control, but how you respond to the situation creating these feelings is.

What are the 5 stages of rejection?

Before you can accept your feelings, it helps to understand rejection. From an emotional standpoint, coming to terms with rejection is a process, much like grieving a loss.

As you process your feelings, you’ll move from one phase to the next until you’re eventually past the thoughts and feelings of anger, disappointment, and self-doubt you’re experiencing to move beyond the situation and find peace. 

The amount of time you spend on each phase of rejection depends on you and the situation. Some may pass quickly, others less. It’s important to be patient with yourself. There’s no optimal rate for getting over rejection. 

Here are the five phases of rejection.

1. Denial

Your first reaction to discovering someone is turning you down will be disbelief. There must be some mistake. You deserve this person’s regard and respect, so you might feel something’s just off.

2. Anger

That’s denial, and once you realize that your rejection isn’t a misunderstanding, you’ll move on to feeling angry. Once you realize the person spurning you isn’t recognizing the error of their ways, you might be mad.

At this point, it might be tempting to go off on the person rejecting you. Don’t do it. Ultimately, venting your negative emotions at them will only cause more hurt for yourself. Take a deep breath and work to calm yourself down. This is a situation where you need to let cooler heads prevail and try to manage your anger. 

3. Bargaining

You’ll get to the point where you begin to think that the person who disappointed you did so because of a faulty assumption or a lack of information. You’ll think that if you could just talk to them, you’ll win them over. 

This phase can easily devolve into something frightening for the other person if you let it. You need to give the person who turned you down space. They don’t owe you an explanation for their rejection, but for the sake of your future relationship — should you both choose to have one — you need to accept their decision with grace.

4. Depression

Rejection comes with a tangled knot of emotion. On top of feeling angry and disappointed, you’re sad, embarrassed, confused, hurt, or all of the above. Your self-confidence has taken a hit, and you may be questioning your worth. All these feelings are a valid response to rejection that might lead to feelings of depression.

Now is when you need to pull out all the stops in your self-care routine. Burn candles, take a bubble bath, or surround yourself with friends. Whatever gives you a sense of comfort. 

Once you feel comforted, begin examining your feelings to identify which emotions are driving your depression and make a plan to address them. It could be as simple as reminding yourself why you are a wonderful human being and of all the people who love and value you. 

5. Acceptance

Now that your emotions have rebounded and you’re feeling more like your old, confident self, it’s time to take a critical look at the situation. Maybe the rejection stemmed from the fact you weren’t a good fit or other factors beyond your control.

You may spot a mistake you made and know it’s a learning opportunity. It’s also possible that you will never fully understand the whys and hows of the situation. And that’s OK. 

Regardless, you’ve learned and grown from the experience. You now understand the process, and the next time you face rejection, you’ll be better able to recognize what you’re feeling.

How to deal with rejection

When you’re in the throws of it, it can be easy to declare: “I can’t handle rejection,” and do everything you can to avoid it. But if you don’t experience rejection, you’re playing it safe and not taking risks.

Pursuing the career of your dreams can mean going from interview to interview and not landing the job. Finding your life partner can mean months of loneliness or time spent healing before you find the one. 

It’s discouraging, but you have a choice. You can either choose to remain where you are, safe yet unfulfilled, or recognize that rejection is part of the process of creating a life you want to live. 

Making that choice to open yourself up to disappointment isn’t easy, but learning what to do after getting rejected will help you build a resilient mindset and keep moving forward. Who knows? Next time it could be you turning down a job offer or cutting out a toxic person.

1. Recognize that rejection is a part of life

Some things aren’t meant to be. And rejection can lead to positive change. It means you’re pushing your limits, taking risks, and leaving your comfort zone behind. If you’re living a life free of rejection, you’re doing something wrong.

2. Accept what happened

The worst way to cope with rejection is to deny it. The longer you delude yourself by claiming it doesn’t matter, the harder it will be to overcome the pain and disappointment. You’ve been let down. Acknowledge it and all the other feelings that come with the pain of rejection. 

3. Process your emotions

Work towards understanding and positively managing your feelings. You don’t want to become angry and take it out on the other person. Yes, rejection hurts, but that doesn’t give you the right to hurt others. 

4. Treat yourself with compassion

It’s OK to cocoon for a little when dealing with rejection. You need time to look after your well-being and return to an even emotional keel. Don’t beat yourself up or overthink the situation. Be compassionate, and know that you’ll learn something new when you’re ready. 

5. Stay healthy

Keep an eye on your health, both physical and mental. It’s easy to become so wrapped up in disappointment that you let things slip. Exercising or learning a new skill keeps you from ruminating about rejection and focuses your brain. You focus on the present, not dwelling on the past. 

If your low mood lasts longer than two weeks despite your best efforts, it’s time to seek professional help. Don’t be afraid to reach out to a mental health professional. A counselor or psychotherapist can help you develop coping skills and strategies to get you past the negative thoughts and feelings of rejection without looking back.

6. Don’t allow rejection to define you

Understandably, your first reaction to rejection might be to wonder what’s wrong with you. A shy person’s response to social rejection might become even more of an introvert.

Remember: you could be the sweetest peach on the tree, but there will be people who don’t like peaches. Keep being your authentic self, and you’ll attract those who appreciate everything you bring to the table. 

7. Grow from the experience

Rejection hurts, but dwelling on what you did wrong doesn’t do you any good. Try to look at the situation objectively. Is there something you can learn from this? If someone passed you over for a job opportunity, seek constructive feedback to help you identify areas where you can beef up your resume.

Were there red flags you missed along the way in the relationship that didn’t work out? Use that information as a building block towards preparing yourself for the next time you decide to put yourself out there.

You have work to do

The pain of rejection is a real emotional bruise. It can undermine your confidence and self-worth. If you’re finding it hard to bounce back, you may need time to build your sense of self-love and esteem.

Someone who’s intimately aware of their self-worth can better rebound from rejection healthily. You can move forward with confidence, knowing that at least one person appreciates your qualities, and that person is you. 

Confidence and a healthy sense of self don’t mean you’ll never again feel the sting of rejection. That’s impossible. But when the inevitable happens, you’ll be able to accept and process the emotions that the experience generates, understand where they come from, and recognize that no matter the initial discomfort, you’ll be all right. 

Moments

 I picked up my phone when the ringer tune buzzed loudly on it.

” Hey , i get my bus and i’ll call you later.” this line i hear from other side on my cellphone . 

“Ok good and have safe journey” that was all i can reply in that short span of call. Everything passed in so hurriedly that ,  nothing else popup in mind at that time.

But i think i was wishing to say something else, like ” Please dont go , i care about you . I love your presence and specially I Love You.”

And i want to hear same thing from you that ,” you do have same place in your life for me as i have.”

You care about me always .

“Together we spent some good days and some amazing moments.”

You were busy in packing your bag and i noticed that you have decided to left me here alone again . We were so busy these days that i didn’t even pay attention that this time you stay longer than other days. I think these days were so pretty that i forgot complete that one day you have to go again and i will be left all alone here just like my random days.

 When you touched your bag than i come to know that we are not like normal other couple who stay away occasionally but we are more occasionally stayed up together. 

Please dont feel offended but i start to like my aloneness. I fall in love with this. Because here i feel more self loved person when you are not around. Its like we walk together in night to walk up together in morning. 

Now i find reason that why time passed so fast, its not because i enjoyed it but because i want it to end as soon as possible. So when you were not around i can be me again. 

I want to apologize that im saying this ,” But truly you irritate me every time  for every single thing” . How you can be so depended on me when we are always stayed up on distance and just like me you have to do all your routine task by your own. Than why every minute when you are here , i become your caretaker person. 

My all peaceful palace become war zone, because when i can hear is all your voice , calling me every time to do things for you. Tide up your bed and than your clothes making food for you arranging schedule for you , but not a single time i can expect anything from you. 

My whole day just become a race zone where i keep on running without reaching anywhere. You dont even take a moment to ask me, how my life is going on. How i am passing my days and what are the thing which kept me busy these days. 

You never bother to ask me, ” Are my days are going good?” 

You never feel my presence and never ask me, ” is something good about my life too?”

“Hey bring my towel from roof, i forgot it there”, this line broke my silent conversation and i run towards terrace and hurriedly hand over your towel to you. You just took it from hand without any eye contact.

Ziped up your bag and sit in drawing room area. I thought you have some time left for cab arrival ,so prepared coffee for both of us, sorry i forgot to ask . As when i call you for coffee and move cup towards you , ” i dont want it now” the only response i received from your side. 

I feel bit awkward to ask you again , as you look so busy with your cellphone.

For fifteen minutes we were both sitting in same room , but with complete silence and finally silence broke with call of cab person from outside and you just blink your eyes and left the room without waiting for any response. 

What all i can do is to just sit there in same pose with full of silence but completely self oriented environment . 

Eyes Looking For Something

How silent day it is, the hot summer month of may with noisy Air cooler and trembling voice of bird eyes outside. Might be searching for something food, water, shelter etc. but i live in area where all roofs are covered with bird food and water pot so they no longer have to make extra effort . A peaceful area where everybody is carful for animal , as they know its time when animal weather birds or else are helpless to get anything easily. Soulful people.

      They are definitely in need of something . and its because though we are just  on mirror apart distance , but birds are not so fearless, they could let anyone watching them from just closely . They can clearly see through mirror. With little careful effort my mom put some food pieces outside window, but they are still there but not eating . at last we decided to let them there , because we are helpless to do anything for them.

I return back to my seat , my loveable seat and laptop in hand and music in ears. I am little bit worry about those birds but at least they are all together . We all are in same situation , tucked somewhere but at least with our beloved who could understand us and care for us. This 2 year are running so fast that i cant guess what im supposed to do with it. Every second passing like year but every year is just like blink complete. if i think with one way , than everything is good my family loves me a lot , im working what i love most and actually this year i started to nuture hobbies of pottery and drawing. where with other point or way everything is blank and defiantly not what i dreamt off .

GOD , how far i come that i dont even remember that what i was dreamt when i’s kid. Actually not so much but just of simple life with lots of happiness but at that time you never realize that day by day you are creating a mess. No hope of coming out of this all, but more and more drowning .

everything so damn different , there is no relation between what coming out from my mouth to what i am planning in my head. and very similarly no match between what i am seeing in reel life to what is happening my actual real life. But this is how elders behave , or this is just two face situation with your own life.

Oohh i am feeling like that bird, who is helpless to express what she want .