Become A Client Attraction Magnet

 For first four months of my online business, I maybe would sign up a random friend or my mom. That was it. And for quite awhile after that, I would still get just a mishmash of people. It wasn’t my ideal client. It wasn’t the person that I knew how to serve best. Inside my private online business group, it was not a tribe community. It was really just an assortment of people who had all of these different problems, and I was running around trying to serve everyone.

The other day, I’m like, “I don’t know what to do. I can’t find anyone who wants to pay for my services. When I look inside Facebook groups  struggle , it’s just a really negative space.  Everyone’s just throwing a pity party, and I don’t know what to do. I can’t find my dream clients. I don’t know if they exist!”

I said, HOLD UP.  

Number one: These groups are negative spaces that your ideal client would not be frequenting.

The person who you’re trying to attract is probably not going to go and spend her time around other people who are feeling sorry for themselves; who are convinced there are no solutions.

Number two: You’ve got to watch what you say.

She’s saying these clients don’t want to pay for her services.  There were two women that she had on the phone who said they needed to save money.

But anyway: I told my client that her lack of belief in finding motivated clients is a mirror.  She’s on the same energetic frequency as those clients who believe they have no solutions. She’s believing that motivated clients don’t exist.

See how the energy is the same? She was getting the energy that she was putting out, because as humans we magnetize, manifest, and energetically attract what we put out into the world.

Let me say that again:

You magnetize, manifest, and energetically attract what you put out into the world.

There’s a great quote from Mother Teresa, and I think it’s so on point.  She says,

“I will never attend an anti-war rally.  If you have a peace rally, invite me.”

Why did she say this?  She said this because she understood that being anti-something was actually creating resistance. And since what you focus on expands, if you’re focusing on antiwar, what are you really focused on?  You’re focused on war. You’re not focused on peace. It’s okay to have contrast. It’s good to be able to use that as a tool to recognize, “OK this is what I don’t want. How do I then take the things that I do want and be really intentional with my words?”  

Be really intentional with your words and your focus.

Now, I get it. You guys have a lot of different objections that you come across; lots of limiting beliefs that your clients give you.  Let’s talk about one you hear all the time: money.

The biggest money objection that you hear all the time?  

I can’t afford what you’re offering.

But YOU KNOW that if they broke their phone tomorrow, they would be at AT&T buying a new one for $800 without blinking an eye. So, it’s really not an issue.

We had a student who we worked with and she was saying, “No one wants to buy my stuff.”  Funny enough: she was late on some of her payments. We said to her, “Hey buddy, you are a mirror for what’s happening in your business. If you’re not paying things on time, why do you think your clients are going to pay on time?”

You’re somebody that’s wanting to make six figures in your business, but you’re unwilling to uplevel.  You’re unwilling to invest in a coach, to get additional training, to get certain systems and/or a nice looking membership site.  You’re in a lack mindset!

You’ve got to ask yourself:

“Am I just not stepping up because I’m afraid the money’s not going to come?  Or am I actually preventing it from coming by not anticipating its arrival?”

Another one that I hear from a lot of you guys is, “Finding clients is hard.”  

“Everyone wants free coaching. No one wants to invest.  Everyone’s getting free coaching, because I just live in my inbox answering free questions and then no one buys my program or one-on-one.”

Well.  If that’s how you are showing up in your business, that’s the expectation that you’re putting out. You want to sign on high paying clients, but you’re not valuing your time, your energy, or your knowledge.

Well, they’re not going to, either.

They’re picking up your cues. They’re doing exactly what you’re doing.  They’re following your lead, so they’re not showing up as clients.

How many of you have had conversations that go “ghost”?

They seem really into signing up. You have this super long conversation with them, and then BOOM. They’re gone. They go ghost. You don’t know where they went. You followed up with them six times, you hear nothing.  You see them posting on social media, but they’ve stopped responding to you.

These are the mantras – and especially for network marketers:

“Signing on business builders is so hard!”

“Where are these people?  It’s like trying to find a yeti or a real life unicorn. These people don’t exist.”

“Women don’t take growing their business seriously.”

“No one on my team wants to really get to the next level.”

“I want to find 10 of me but I’m not sure that these women are out there.”

“How are these other people growing teams??”

I understand that you’re struggling, but we have to consider not just the strategy, but also the spiritual energy.

Here’s the deal: You are always in the process of deliberate creation.

You are always manifesting.

We have to understand we live in a complex universe, and this is very metaphysical. As soon as you have a thought, it has an energetic vibration that is attached to it.  That thought becomes a path of desire, and it’s sent out into a complex universe that is full of others’ desires and thoughts. Well, here’s the good news: we live in such a complex universe, you don’t think to yourself, “I hope I don’t get robbed” and then 10 seconds later someone robs you.  It takes time for thoughts to build momentum. For your manifestation to come into your existence, it takes time.

So if you’re  practicing some mantras that are not serving (“Nobody has money to pay for me.” “I don’t think I’m going to sign anyone up for my program.”), catch yourself.  Otherwise, you’ll lose motivation to sharpen your business.

You can’t necessarily catch every thought that you think, but you can recognize and be really in tune with how you’re feeling emotionally.

Don’t like what you’re manifesting? Choose again.

Don’t like the (lack of) money in your bank account? Choose again.

Don’t like the relationships in your life? Chose again.

Don’t like the clients that you’re bringing in?

Choose again, choose again, choose again.

Based on the beliefs we’ve just discussed, we have to shift them. Start removing vocabulary from your Rolodex.  

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Here’s a few suggestions of what you can do… and yes, I want you to do homework today. I want you to take this seriously; really sit down, grab a journal, and actually write out new beliefs.  It’s a powerful thing for you to do.

I don’t want you to give your negative beliefs any more attention.

I don’t want you to give them any more focus.  

Instead, you can start writing out exactly what you do want.

I want you to write these out and I want you to really say these things out loud with emotion.  Why? Well, we can all sit and do manifestation visualization mantras in our heads, but it’s so much more powerful when you get up and use your physiology.

Use your physical body to get up, build that momentum, and build that energy.  Really get yourself into a peak state.

Here are some beliefs that will start magnetizing and attracting your ideal clients into your business.

I tried to keep them pretty specific, but also pretty flexible depending on the business that you have.  So, customize them for you!

I am so grateful that I have thousands of followers in my tribe who love support and appreciate the work that I do.

Every single day, I wake up with new messages and new e-mails from women thanking me for stepping forward to share my message unapologetically.

Hundreds of women invest in my programs and courses each and every month, ready and eager to change their lives.

I am blown away each and every day by the new, amazing results and testimonials my clients share with me and the rest of the world.

I am fine tuning my vibration to constantly, consistently and easily attract new clients into my business.

The universe works for me – effortlessly – delivering my message to women who need to hear it most. This all happens behind the curtain of time and space, and requires no additional effort from me.

This month, I easily make an additional $50,000 from clients who are so eager to pay in full for my programs and services.

My clients and team members are eager to get results. They are coachable, open, and ready to make changes in their lives.

It amazes me how many women (who have previously told me “no”) suddenly return in droves, ready to begin their coaching journey.

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How did those mantras feel compared to some of the beliefs that you were previously holding? Some of these negative mantras are things that you were drilling in every single day.  So, every single day when you wake up, reflect on the business you want.

Check your thoughts, and start to choose again.

I understand that, for some people, this can be a little bit counterintuitive.  It can be a little bit even – dare I say – challenging. Some of you may face some resistance with this.  “Jen, you’re telling me to say all these things, but I’m looking around at my situation right now and I’m broke. I have no clients. No one wants to pay me. So how am I supposed to sit there and believe that I’m going to make an extra $50K this month? How am I supposed to actually sit there and believe that people want to pay for my services?”

Make this WORK for YOU.  If saying $50K, for example, is giving you anxiety and resistance, then just shift it! You certainly can think big picture, and you can put a wrinkle in time and space. There’s no limits to what’s possible. But, if you’re in a place right now with resistance that feels like having a gun; that it doesn’t feel right… that’s okay.

Find things that are just a shift in the right direction, and continually shift 10 more degrees.

Once you are able to manifest with total ease; saying your mantras to yourself every single day, getting excited about them, jumping around your house, wiggling your butt a little bit, and blasting some feel good music.  Once you get into that peak state and actually start putting that energy into your subconscious….

you’re going to be amazed at what happens.

Self-Improvement Tips That Will Change Your Life

 ‘’The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be’’

Having a self-improvement plan and daily self-improvement goal is a vital factor for success, it helps you tap into certain dimensions and level of growth because the more self-improvement goals you meet, the quality of your journey increases.

Self-improvement is the belief that you are worth the effort, time and energy needed to develop yourself, convert your goals and aspiration into reality.

Life is a series of problem-solving opportunities; the problems you face will either defeat you or develop you depending on how you respond to them, so you get to negotiate through the cost of survival by how much courage you have to make, develop and manage changes.

As one change in your life can lead to massive benefits, another can turn the wheels of survival to a frustrating route that is why we have to be in continually search to improve and develop ourselves so we can move and not remain in the same positions for life entails growth, if we stop growing, improving and developing the quality of our lives we are good as dead.

Hence it is mandatory that we cultivate, develop skills and tools that will take us into a higher level of growth.

Self-improvement is a major necessity in growth, simply put, self-improvement is expanding your potential as you are your best investment.

I refer to my mind, body, and soul as tools of survival hence they must be sharpened and improved daily to be efficient and this is what self-improvement thoroughly entails. You cannot dream yourself into a character; you must hammer and forge yourself one so you must be ready to pursue life-enhancing tools and tips.

Self-improvement and personal development are crucial factors to self-accomplishment that goes together and it is a life long process; you don’t just wake up and you are standing on the podium of success there are certain steps, rules, tips and resources to jingle around which I will be sharing with you.

The importance of self-improvement cannot be overemphasized as we need to know and value the purpose and need for growth and development.

Self-improvement is repeated habits to get you moving towards your goals and ambitions, creating a better version of yourself on a regular basis by effectively building improvements.

Investing in yourself is mandatory and it is the greatest investment you can ever make. It will not only improve your life, but it will also improve the lives of those around you so don’t miss out on opportunities or resources that can positively enhance your life.

There are so many things you can do to improve yourself, there is a vast range of self-improvement tips but I will be sharing a grouped collection that I employed into my life and have drastically and specially help me increase the quality of my life.

The first 20 self-improvement tips are mindset hacks and the last 15 are tactical things you can go out and do. They include;

I know this sounds a lot but you don’t have to feel overwhelmed by these steps. At the end of this article, I have attached a 30 day challenge you can embark on that is guaranteed to massively improve the quality of your life.

Mindset Hacks

1.  No person or amount of success will fill the hole inside of you, but doing what you love will. And remember, the only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.

2.  Ask real questions and deeply listen as everyone has a story that can change your perspective.

3.  Judgment is an easy and lazy thing, it takes far more strength to respond with love.

4.  Imperfections are the unique quirks that make someone truly beautiful hence character cannot be developed in ease and quiet, only through the experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened and inspired so do not fear failures.

5.  Every situation that comes your way is an opportunity to grow beyond patterns as success isn’t measured by what a man accomplished but by the opposition he has encountered and the courage with which he has marinated the struggle against overwhelming odds.

6.  No one has the answers; we’re all just making this up as we go, meditate, write and listen to your heart first!

7.  Enjoy the honest moments; a home-cooked meal with friends, the warmth of another’s skin against yours and the smell of the sea breeze. These are the simple joy of living.

8.  Be a new student to something.

9.  Between our first and last breath is the story we create; fall in love with the process, there is no finish line or point of arrival!

10.  What is meant for you will never miss you, surrender everything you think you know.

11.  Taking care of yourself is selfless. An empty well cannot give water to a village!

12.  What we want most is often what we fear most, but be vulnerable and do it anyways. Regret is a terrible thing best avoided by unapologetically going for it.

13.  Create art and live for the simple joy and fulfillment of it, not for everyone else.

14.  People will sing your praises and tear you down, both of which are a reflection of them; so stay in your lane.

15.  True joy comes from helping others, community is everything. Take care of your people, their wins are your wins!

16.  Have a sense of humor about yourself. We’re basically just consciousness walking around in advanced monkey suits.

17.  Give your mind a break; stop stressing, worrying and raising bars of comparison.

18.  Complain less.

19.  Try, learn, grow!

20.  Don’t let people tell you it can’t be done.

Tactical Habits

1.  Gratitude

On an average day, how much gratitude do you have? How thankful are you? If you don’t take out time to be thankful every day, it’s time to start because there is a vital connection between gratitude and well-being.

People who are grateful tend to have less toxic emotions governing them, they feel good, sleep well and have the best self-esteem.

Gratitude serves as a way of taking negative emotions and converting them into a powerful catalyst for happiness. Gratitude will shift you to a higher frequency and you will attract much better things.

Developing an attitude of gratitude can be really easy all you have to do is consciously look for things you appreciate in life. Be thankful for support, healthy relationship, love, family, good food, clean water even the minimal things and the things you appreciate about yourself.

The key is to not just saying you are thankful, you need to really feel appreciation for them.

2.  Employ positive affirmations

Don’t let the negativity given to you by the world disempower you because you are the master of your fate and the captain of your soul, so take charge. Let go of limiting beliefs, do not worry about what you cannot control, shift your energy to what you can create and declare positive mantras and affirmations.

Affirmations are our mental vitamins, providing the supplementary positive thoughts we need to balance the barrage of negative events and thoughts we experience daily.

Take positive care of your mind and it would surely take positive care of your life.

In the course of adopting positivity, my words have been carefully selected, I use positive words like:

Self-improvement Tips That Will Change Your Life

‘’I will face whatever comes today with a positive attitude’’

‘’I will always find a way and a way will always find me’’

‘’I have all the power I need’’

‘’I contain multitudes’’

‘’I have the strength to succeed’’

‘’I will overcome every challenges and obstacle’’

‘’I believe in myself’’

‘’I am enough’’

‘’I am abundantly blessed”

“I have a purpose”

“I can unfold”

“I am grateful’’

‘’I am rare divinity walking in flesh’’

‘’I uniquely carry gold’’

3.  Quit being a perfectionist

It’s only after you’ve stepped outside your comfort zone that you begin to change, grow and transform.

Don’t aim for perfection, aim for better than yesterday!

4.  Mindfulness

Being more mindful is a great goal to cultivate, it changes your perspective,  thoughts, and process and can transform your mental health for the better.

Mindfulness is all about being more conscious of the present moment, focusing on what you’re doing, where you are and how you are feeling instead of focusing on stress. Surrender to what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be.

5.  Unplug

Take time out of your day to unplug and be by yourself every day; remove all stimuli- no phone, no laptop just you by yourself. This gives you time to reflect, meditate and discover things about yourself. Write, journal and reflect.

 6.  Set goals and crush them step by step be it long terms or short term goals.

Successful and unsuccessful people do not vary in their abilities, they vary in their desire to reach their potential. Make a success of living by seeing the goals and aiming for it unswervingly.

 7.  Organization

I struggled with keeping with my routines, plans, and goals at some point in my life.

My routines where inconsistent, I couldn’t meet up with deadlines,  I was behind my goals and plans, trust me, it was really frustrating and  I needed to fix this to get on top of my game so I learned to enhance my life by having an organization plan for my goals, schedule, house or whatever I did.

Organization includes keeping tracks of your commitment, planning, and scheduling; arranging everything in order and this is so vital for success.

Set a calendar to fill your plans, goals, deadlines and everything you need to do to be able to prepare for them. This can greatly contribute to your life and to your level of growth of success.

Use planners, timetables and set reminders- Be not afraid of growing slowly, be afraid only of standing still. If you don’t have daily objectives you qualify as a dreamer.

8.  Be proactive!

9.  Avoid procrastination.

10.  Eliminate distractions!

12.  Outline productive rituals.

13.  Be patient with yourself; self-growth is tender, it is holy ground. There is no greater investment.

14.  Face, accept and create new challenges.

Change equals self-improvement, push yourself to places you haven’t been before.

15.  Focus on the reasons behind seasons.

16.  Unpack the opinion of others.

I hope this list is able to enlighten you on the importance and relevance of self-improvement and you employ at least one tip at a time, daily and consistently to enhance the quality of your life.

Remember in this world you’re either growing or you’re dying, so get in motion and grow!

How To Manifest By Writing Things Down: 3 Step Formula

 Have you ever tried to manifest something so badly but still no matter the manifesting techniques you used nothing happened? No matter how hard you tried, visualized and persisted for days in your vision, never managed to attract it?

Are you too searching the secret of a dream life behind  The Secret Book?

Well it turns out there’s a solid way to get exactly what you want by using one simple formula!

In fact all you need to know are 3 easy to apply steps that have been proven to work and attract anything you want quickly.

And in today’s post I’m going to show you step by step how to actually manifest by writing on paper a manifestation list, how to instill new beliefs into your subconscious mind and also how to visualize effectively.

Finally you are going to learn how to disengage from what you want to allow it to realize.

If you‘re ready for a life changing lesson, let’s dive right in.

So What Actually Is Manifestation? Can It Actually work For You?

Well I have good news and bad news! To start with let me say this: The Law of Attraction is always working whether you believe it or not.

Manifestation is a “magic” process where you focus all your energy and intention to turn a goal or aspiration into reality.

And it actually works! It really does! And it’s magical!

According to The Law Of Attraction site, there are many different definitions of the word manifest, but the simplest would be that a manifestation is ‘something that is put into your physical reality through thought, feelings, and beliefs’.

Imagine having the power to turn everything you dream of into reality! To be able to manifest something or someone SPECIAL into your life by simply using your mind and energy!

It sounds simple right? Wrong!

To be able to manifest and attract your desires into your life, well it takes more than just thinking about them.

It takes energy, feelings, and of course beliefs! That’s why most people fail to attract their desire. Their thoughts, feelings, and beliefs are not in alignment.

In fact your beliefs are the deciding factor whether your thought manifests or not.

For example some goals, such as getting someone back into your life, are hard to manifest simply because of high-attachment, strong beliefs and lack of faith.

Fortunately, today you’re going to learn an easy, proven to work method, on how to manifest something by writing it down!

These are the exact 3 steps you need to follow to make manifestation work for you and attract everything you love into your life!

 How to Manifest By Writing Things Down Step-By Step

Step 1: Write Down Your Manifestation List and Your Exact Beliefs on Those Goals – Clear your Mind

how to manifest by writing things on paper

Goal Setting

Ok, so to manifest something, anything at all, you obviously need to know what you want to manifest.. makes sense right?

Goal setting is so important in our lives! It motivates us and gives meaning to our lives.

If you feel you don’t have any goals in your life i suggest practicing some self work.

Self work is an important step into recognizing your strengths in order to develop them, and  your weaknesses and vulnerabilities in order to improve them.

Self work will connect you to your inner self and will guide you through finding your passion in life, your desires and goals.

 Get a New Manifestation Journal

To start I recommend getting a new notebook to use as your manifestation journal.

I like to keep it separate from any other journal I may use. In fact i have a separate journal for my self love prompts, another one for my gratitude affirmations and a third one for my financial affirmations!!

But i use a special one for my manifestations as this one is dedicated exclusively to writing about the things I wish to attract in my life.

Keeping it separate, creates an important trigger in my mind that this is the time to work for myself and create my dream life.

It makes me excited and motivates me to put in the effort needed for my desires to fulfill.

How to Write A Manifestation List

Now that you have your new manifestation journal, start by writing down your manifestation list. Include every goal that you have in your mind and excites you.

But how do you write your manifestations? Well simply start by brainstorming desires you have in life. What do you wish to accomplish for your life to be fulfilled?

Let yourself free to brainstorm and write down everything. Even if a goal seems too “big” for you, make yourself a favor and WRITE IT DOWN.

Remember: there is no big or small for the universe! Anything is possible. You could even manifest something overnight by writing it down.

Some manifestation examples could be attracting love into your life, buying a new house, loosing weight etc. By writing manifestations on paper immediately gives you a clearer picture of what you want from your life and helps you prioritize your desires.

Choose a Goal to Manifest

Ok so now that you‘ve got your manifestations on paper, you might choose to start and manifest a single goal at a time or many of them.

I’d start with a single one, the one thing most important for me, just to test the “how to manifest by writing things down” formula!

But that’s just me!! You can do as you like!

Either way, make sure to follow the process step by step.

Write Your Goal and Beliefs About That Goal Down

Once you’ve written your goal down, go ahead and write next to it, your exact beliefs on that specific goal. For example let’s say your goal is to manifest love into your life. Read this goal and then write what you think and how you feel reading this.

You might think I’m not worthy of love, every person I love betrays me, I’m not pretty/interesting enough for the person I love to love me back etc..

Write everything down to clear your mind and soul. This loads off one’s mind and makes you feel relieved.

Now, you are ready to proceed to the most important step and instill new beliefs in your subconscious mind!

Step 2: Write and Instill a New Belief For Your Desired Goal – Time to Re-Program Your Mind

Question and Transform Your Negative Beliefs Into Positive Statements

What I want you to do next is go ahead and work on your manifesting blocks, question these negative beliefs that you’ve written before.

And then transform every one of those negative beliefs into positive statements.

In our example our negative belief was: I’m not worthy of love.

Let’s question this: Love isn’t something that depends on a measurement like worthiness. To connect with love, you must be willing to give love and receive love. It’s

willingness, not worthiness that controls love.

So now we’re going to transform this statement into: I’m willing, and happy to give and receive love.

Write down Your Positive Statement Many Times  – Experience the Feelings

Write on paper your new transformed affirmation many times and repeat it until you feel really comfortable with it. Feel the intensity, feel the energy this affirmation brings.

Every time you write your affirmation, visualize as if your desire has already manifested.

How would you feel if the desire you so longed for had finally manifested? Piece, fulfillment, happiness, excitement?

Actually there’s an easy method for you to apply when writing your manifestations  and I’m introducing it below.

369 Manifestation Writing

The 369 manifestation writing method is actually super popular. It all started with a TikTok video and soon after this manifestation formula is taking social media by storm.

But what actually is this method?  Well the 369 method is based on the magnificence of the numbers 3, 6 & 9 and is really simple to apply. According to the inventor Nikola Tesla “If you only knew the magnificence of the numbers 3, 6 and 9, then you have the key to the universe.”

The number three is a direct link to the universe, six is strength we have within, and nine helps let go of negativity and the past.

Here’s what the 369 manifestation writing suggests:

• As soon as you wake up write down what you ‘d like to manifest 3 times!
• Then, during the day write your manifestation 6 times
• Finally write your goal 9 more times in the evening.

Simple isn’t it? The method is definitely worth a try as it’s super easy to apply and it helps you remain consistent with writing your manifestations and changing your feelings and beliefs.

However you need to do a little bit more than just writing down your manifestation list. You need to feel the exact feelings of accomplishment. And to get those feelings you need to visualize!

Visualize

Visualize yourself accomplishing your goal! You are already there! Your desire is already yours. How does that feel?

Feel that exact feeling and keep visualizing images that produce this feeling. Try to vibrate with your vision. Vibrate with happiness, excitement, relief! Hold that feeling!

I recommend doing your visualizations mainly before sleep because then it’s easier to get your subconscious to accept your desire and accept that you have conquered your goal.

Continue with this process every day to ensure that your affirmation is part of your life and your subconscious mind doesn’t question it any more.

Write and repeat your affirmation daily without worrying about how it will happen.

With repetition and disciplined practice you will achieve a feeling of certainty for your desired result. That’s when you know that your subconscious has accepted your desire.

Step 3: Detach from your Desire To Allow It to Happen

Finally what you need to do is to detach.

Detachment is trusting the process and not trying to control how your desire will manifest. Stop worrying and stressing about your desire.

Just know it will happen.

Imagine ordering something online. You choose the product, fill in your info, pay for it and that’s it. You expect it to arrive!

You don’t doubt that you’ll receive it. You are certain you will.

When you detach, you do not detach from your desire. Instead you only detach from the HOW and WHEN, feeling certain that you’ll receive your desire.

When you can successfully detach, you will be able to overcome even the greatest doubts.

Detachment brings with it the peace, serenity, and confidence you need to let go and let the universe do what it needs to do to bring about your desires.

If you believe you can have something, your subconscious mind will show you how to change your actions and habits to become the kind of person who has those things.

This is the only How that is actually your job. You need to become the person that has already reached your BIG desire. To take action and – act as if – you already have what you want.

Why Do You Need To Write A Manifestation List

So a big part of manifesting is to create your manifestation list.

A lot of people ask me how I’ve been able to manifest so many things in my life.

The answer is simple: I have a manifestation list. A manifestation list is a list of all the things that you want to happen in your life.

It can be anything from getting a new job, to finding the love of your life, to traveling the world.

When you write down your goals and dreams, you are putting yourself in a position to make them happen!

Writing down your manifestations is the first step to making them happen.

It’s a way of putting your desires and intentions out there into the universe.

When you write down what you want, you’re also getting clear on what it is that you want.

And when you’re clear on what you want, the universe can help to make it happen for you.

Can you Manifest Without Writing It Down?

Sure you can! There’s only one problem: You need extra effort to control and direct your mind and your thoughts.

Manifesting on paper can be very helpful in the beginning because it helps you focus on your goals and desires. When writing your manifestations on paper, its easier to prioritize them and focus your energy and efforts.

However if you want to try and manifest without a paper, the most common ways are by meditating what you want, visualizing desires in detail, and of course repeating affirmations.

Either you choose manifesting by writing things down or without paper always remember: The real power behind the Law of Attraction is in the mind that believes in it.

Conclusion

Ok so now you know how to manifest things by writing them down! You are absolutely ready to apply the 3 step Manifestation formula and attract all you desire in life.

Believe me when i say: Manifesting is real, I’ve seen it happen. Write down your manifestation list, acknowledge and transform your negative beliefs.

And then work to instill those new positive beliefs into your subconscious mind! Be persistent, visualize and feel the exact feelings you’d feel if your desire realized.

Finally detach! Stop worrying about how your goal is going to manifest and when this is happening. Be certain it will come, feel the mazing feeling of expectation and act as is your dream goal has already been achieved!

That is a “magic” formula that always works!

Happy manifesting!!

Master Your Thinking & Success by Thibaut Meurisse

 Today, we delve into the captivating world of “Master Your Thinking & Success” by the brilliant Thibaut Meurisse. This thought-provoking book is a treasure trove of wisdom that offers invaluable insights into the power of our thoughts and their profound impact on achieving success.

Overview of the book “Master Your Thinking & Success” by Thibaut Meurisse

“Master Your Thinking & Success” is not just another self-help book; it stands out as a transformative guide that empowers readers to unlock their full potential. In this literary masterpiece, Thibaut Meurisse combines his experiences with extensive research to provide practical strategies for mastering our thoughts and cultivating success in all aspects of life.

The book’s overarching theme revolves around understanding how our thoughts shape our reality and influence our actions. Its comprehensive approach equips readers with practical techniques to reframe negative thinking patterns, overcome limiting beliefs, and develop empowering habits that propel them toward their goals.

Brief background on the author

Before delving further into the content of this remarkable work, let’s take a moment to appreciate the mind behind it all — Thibaut Meurisse. As an accomplished author and personal development coach, Meurisse can distill complex concepts into easily understandable nuggets of wisdom.

Hailing from a diverse background in psychology, philosophy, and neuroscience, Meurisse has dedicated his life to helping individuals unleash their true potential. He has become widely recognized as a leading authority in self-improvement literature, with numerous successful books and an extensive following across various platforms.

Meurisse’s expertise shines through in “Master Your Thinking & Success,” where he expertly combines his academic knowledge with practical insights from personal experiences and client interactions. This fusion of theory and real-world application adds depth and authenticity to the book, making it a trustworthy guide for anyone seeking personal growth.

Now that we have set the stage, let us dive deeper into the profound concepts encapsulated within “Master Your Thinking & Success” by Thibaut Meurisse. Brace yourself for an exhilarating exploration of the power of thoughts and how to harness them to achieve success.

Understanding the Power of Thoughts

Unraveling the Mysteries of Our Mind

When it comes to achieving success, we often underestimate the significant role that our thoughts play. Our thoughts are like seeds that, when planted in the fertile soil of our minds, have the potential to shape our reality.

Thibaut Meurisse’s book, “Master Your Thinking & Success,” delves into this fascinating realm by exploring thoughts’ impact on our journey toward success. Our thoughts serve as the building blocks upon which our actions are built.

They profoundly influence how we perceive and interpret events, ultimately shaping our reality. Take a moment to reflect: have you ever noticed how your mindset affects your approach to challenges?

If you view obstacles as insurmountable barriers, fear and self-doubt will likely hinder your actions. Conversely, if you adopt a positive mindset fueled by empowering thoughts, you’ll find yourself taking bold steps forward with confidence.

The Power of Mind Over Matter

Humans possess an incredible ability to manifest their desires through focused thinking and intentional action. The power lies in understanding that our thoughts create energetic vibrations that resonate with similar frequencies in the universe.

This phenomenon is known as the law of attraction — what we think most often becomes attractive in our lives. Imagine this: when you constantly dwell on negative thoughts or focus on what could go wrong, you inadvertently invite more negativity into your life.

On the other hand, when you cultivate positive and empowering thoughts about success and abundance, you create a magnetic force that draws opportunities and favorable circumstances toward you. Thibaut Meurisse’s book enlightens us about this extraordinary connection between thoughts and manifestations.

We can transform our thinking patterns and lives by gaining awareness of this power and learning strategies to harness it effectively. We can unlock the door to unlimited success and fulfillment by understanding our thoughts’ potency.

The Science Behind Positive Thinking

Unveiling the psychological theories supporting positive thinking

Regarding positive thinking, it’s not just some fluffy concept or wishful thinking. There is actual science behind it that validates its effectiveness. One psychological theory that supports positive thinking is the self-efficacy theory developed by Albert Bandura.

According to this theory, individuals who strongly believe in their abilities and skills are more likely to set challenging goals for themselves and persevere in the face of obstacles. Positive thinking builds this sense of self-efficacy by fostering optimism, resilience, and a can-do attitude.

Positive Thinking

Another psychological theory that supports positive thinking is the broaden-and-build theory proposed by Barbara Fredrickson. This theory suggests that when we experience positive emotions such as joy, gratitude, or love, our minds open, and our cognitive resources expand.

This expanded mindset allows us to think more creatively, make better decisions, and build enduring personal resources like resilience and social connections. In other words, positive thinking enhances our overall well-being, broadens our perspectives, and makes an upward spiral of positivity.

Examining studies on the benefits of positive thinking for success

Numerous studies have explored the impact of positive thinking on success across various domains of life. One study published in the Journal of Applied Psychology found that employees with a positive mindset were more likely to experience higher job satisfaction, better performance evaluations from superiors, and greater career advancement opportunities than their negative-thinking counterparts. Another study conducted at Harvard University revealed that optimistic students performed better academically than pessimistic students.

The researchers found a direct relationship between students’ optimistic outlooks on their future achievements and their actual academic performance over time. Positive thinking has also been associated with improved physical health outcomes.

A study published in Health Psychology showed that individuals who maintained a positive outlook on life had a lower risk of developing cardiovascular diseases. Our thoughts and emotions can profoundly impact our overall health and well-being.

These studies, among many others, provide compelling evidence of the benefits of positive thinking. By adopting a positive mindset, we not only enhance our chances of success but also improve our mental and physical health.

Strategies to Master Your Thinking

Developing self-awareness to identify negative thought patterns

In mastering our thinking, self-awareness becomes a crucial first step. We must recognize and acknowledge the presence of negative thought patterns that may be holding us back from reaching our full potential.

This requires taking a closer look at our inner dialogue and becoming attuned to the negative self-talk that often goes unnoticed. By developing self-awareness, we can unravel these detrimental thought patterns and take proactive steps toward positive change.

Techniques to recognize and challenge negative thoughts

Once we’ve developed self-awareness, we will learn to identify and challenge negative thoughts effectively. One technique is cognitive restructuring, which involves questioning the validity of our negative thoughts and replacing them with more rational and empowering ones.

Negative Thinking

For example, if you think, “I’ll never succeed in this project,” challenge that thought by asking yourself for evidence as to why it’s not true or considering alternative perspectives. By actively challenging these thoughts, we can shift our mindset towards a more positive and growth-oriented outlook.

Journaling exercises for self-reflection and introspection

Journaling serves as a powerful tool for fostering self-reflection and introspection. Putting pen to paper lets us delve more into our thoughts, emotions, and experiences.

Engaging in regular journaling exercises allows us to explore patterns in our thinking, uncover limiting beliefs, celebrate wins, analyze setbacks or failures from a new angle, and set goals for personal growth. Through journaling prompts such as “What are my biggest fears holding me back?” or “What are three accomplishments I’m proud of?”, we gain insights into ourselves that can lead us down the path of transformation.

Writing in a journal

Cultivating a growth mindset for continuous personal development

Embracing challenges as opportunities for growth

To master our thinking and achieve success, it is essential to cultivate a growth mindset. This mindset encourages us to see challenges as opportunities for learning and personal development rather than insurmountable obstacles.

By embracing challenges, we can adopt a proactive approach that pushes us out of our comfort zones and propels us toward new heights. When faced with a difficult task or setback, reframing our thoughts to view it as an opportunity for growth enables us to approach it with resilience and determination.

Adopting a resilient attitude towards setbacks and failures

Setbacks and failures are inevitable on the path to success. However, how we perceive them shapes our ability to bounce back and move forward. Adopting a resilient attitude allows us to view setbacks as temporary detours rather than permanent roadblocks.

It involves reframing failures as valuable learning experiences that provide insights into areas where we can improve. By cultivating resilience in the face of adversity, we develop the mental fortitude needed to persevere through challenges and maintain focus on our ultimate goals.

Harnessing the power of affirmations and visualization techniques

Crafting effective affirmations to rewire your subconscious mind

Affirmations are powerful statements that help rewire our subconscious mind by replacing negative self-talk with positive beliefs. Effective affirmations involve phrasing them in the present tense, using uplifting language, and making them specific to areas where we seek improvement. For example, if you struggle with self-confidence, crafting an affirmation like “I am confident in my abilities, deserving of success, and capable of achieving greatness” can help reprogram your subconscious mind over time.

Utilizing visualization exercises to manifest desired outcomes

Visualization exercises tap into the power of imagination to display desired results. By vividly imagining ourselves achieving our goals, we activate our brain’s reticular activating system (RAS), which seeks opportunities and resources aligned with our visualized objectives.

Visualization can be enhanced by incorporating sensory details, emotions, and a strong belief in attaining our desires. Repeated practice of visualization exercises can help align our thinking with success, enhancing motivation and focus.

Overcoming Limiting Beliefs

Identifying common limiting beliefs that hinder success

Defining beliefs act as mental barriers that impede our progress toward success. They often stem from past experiences, societal conditioning, or fear of failure.

Common examples include imposter syndrome — the belief that we are not competent enough despite evidence of our abilities — and the fear of failure that holds us back from taking risks. Identifying these limiting beliefs is crucial to addressing them effectively and cultivating positive thinking patterns.

Strategies to challenge and overcome limiting beliefs

To challenge and overcome limiting beliefs, cognitive reframing techniques prove invaluable. This involves actively questioning the validity of these beliefs by gathering evidence to counter them or finding alternative explanations.

Seeking support from mentors or coaches who can provide guidance and offer an objective perspective is also beneficial in challenging self-limiting beliefs. By consistently challenging these thoughts and replacing them with empowering ones, we create space for personal growth and pave the way for success.

Building Habits for Success

The role of habits in shaping our thinking patterns

Habits play a pivotal role in shaping our thinking patterns as they establish pathways in the brain through repetition. When mastering our thinking for success, cultivating empowering habits is essential. By consistently engaging in positive practices, we reinforce neural connections associated with optimistic thinking, resilience, self-reflection, goal setting, discipline, and continuous self-improvement.

Techniques to establish empowering habits

Establishing empowering habits requires intentional effort and dedication. One technique is habit stacking, where we anchor a new positive habit to an existing one, creating a seamless transition between the two.

Setting SMART (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, Time-bound) goals also helps establish clear objectives for habit formation. Regular reflection on our progress and adjustments to our approach ensures that these habits align with our evolving needs and aspirations.

Conclusion

As we embark on mastering our thinking for success, it becomes evident that the power lies within ourselves. We can dismantle limiting beliefs that hinder our progress by developing self-awareness to identify negative thought patterns and challenging them with cognitive reframing techniques. Cultivating a growth mindset allows us to embrace challenges as opportunities for growth and adopt resilience in the face of setbacks or failures.

Harnessing affirmations and visualization techniques enable us to reprogram our subconscious mind and align our thoughts with success. Overcoming limiting beliefs through cognitive reframing and seeking support from mentors or coaches empowers us to break free from mental barriers.

Building empowering habits supports the cultivation of positive thinking patterns and propels us forward on our path toward success. Ultimately, by consistently applying these strategies with dedication and perseverance, we can master our thinking, unlocking immense potential within ourselves while navigating the journey toward success with confidence and resilience.

Deep Questions To Ask Yourself To Change Your Life Around

 An unexamined life is not worth living.

No matter how far we journey in life, there are always questions that swell around our minds; they could be self-reflection questions, questions about life that makes you think, life questions to ask, questions to ask yourself to find out who you are or what direction you are headed in?

These questions to ask yourself enables you to determine where you are, where you have been, where you intend to go and how these actions have shaped your life.

It enables you to evaluate your life as an unexamined life is not worth living; it helps you unravel your potential, find your purpose and find a balance in the chaos brewing around.

These questions to ask yourself serve as a bridge of identification, examination, discovery, and clarification. Life changes at every point of survival and the need to adjust to its transition brings about growth and in the course of this transition, it’s easy to lose your focus and fall short on your journey.

A few months ago, my mental state was set loose, my life was on a tight rope, the experience of adulthood, friendship, career, and relationship were extremely overwhelming. I had to take a big step out from the puddle of confusion and turn the lights of evaluation on.

I had to understand that my roots were entangled in self-betrayal and unclear beliefs; I wasn’t giving enough to myself as I had given to others, I kept seeking for external validation, reducing the spark of my authenticity to embrace the warm light of others, peeling off my strength in an embrace of love.

Until I put my life under a consistent check; asking the right questions to bring about introspection to create a foundation for a happier life, I did not have a successful breakthrough.

When you create a space of positivity you will attract positive vibes more, so when you outline questions to strengthen the level of positivity in your life, you grow. 

Set out your microscope and let’s figure out what you need to find in yourself. These questions to ask yourself are meant to tend to your inner voice and guide you through the struggle of survival and living. They can also serve as self-empowering journal prompts  

questions to ask yourself to find out who you are

1.  What Phase Are You In Currently?

What is this phase teaching you?

Did you learn what you need to carry on to the next phase?

Are you unlearning?

What has brought you the most joy and the most challenge and how has that shaped you?

This is a vital evaluation of life. Life is a crate of experience, each layer or section has a lesson to teach. As things unfold through every process in life; wilting, falling, rooting, rising and blooming, there is always a lesson hanging in between each phase.

Our experiences are a catalyst for growth; they keep us in check and prepare us for the long point of our journey. You may be at an invisible spot where everything seems to be crumbling down.

I want you to remember that when the balance of reality unravels with your dreams magnified through a glass of limitation; when everything around you shatters, know that rock bottom is a perfect place for rebuilding! Every scare through the struggle and turbulence of survival is a badge of honor; each misstep is a victory dance waiting to happen- Titilope Sonuga

Learning the complicated language of survival -letting go and holding on, your experiences are bricks to be layered up to get a head-on on the path you have to take. There are lessons the universe is instilling in you, so you know what to take into your next season.

This is a major evaluation and consoling lift I stand on each time my tolerance is trimmed. When survival gets tough through the experiences and journey, I ask what does this phase has installed for me? What is this situation negatively or positively teaching me? How can I induce that knowledge into my life as a force changer or uplift? I can go as far as yelling this out and crying my heart out as I vent my answers out.

Life has rough edges and learning through these twists and turns, my friend, can be challenging but the ability to learn from failed routes makes you navigate better. So darling, when you lose the momentum to strive, shove your feet and ask the question- What is this phase teaching me?

Sometimes, the revelation or lesson may be clouded but eventually it comes to light, it could be after you have moved from that situation or phase.

I have a draft on my phone where I subsequently outline every lesson I have learned from my dark phase. I see them as badges of wisdom and strength incurred from the fight of survival and when things get all rosy I go back and read them out loud. 

2.  What Are You Holding On To That Is Limiting You?

What are you creating toxic space for?

What positive thoughts about myself can I focus on?

Hold on, don’t be too quick to answer, travel down your hill of experience and reflect. In a bid of survival, we are bound to make connections, lose some in the way and pick up certain negative traits of limitations consciously and unconsciously.

Life changes at every point of survival and the need to adjust to its transition brings about growth and it is not always easy to adjust. A few months ago, my mental state like I said was on a tight rope, I was utterly chasing the wrong purpose, limiting myself, waking up self-doubt.

I continually belittled my accomplishments as little as they were, curbed my authenticity by not giving permission to be myself, silent my voice and intuition, compromised my beliefs, and prioritized others over myself.

And at the end of that process, I was externally and internally exhausted I couldn’t understand that each challenge or experience was a stepping stone to a greater journey of empowerment and strength.

Instead of a stance of anger and regrets, I started to let go of the mistakes I made and gave myself the opportunity to learn to stand up for myself, give permission to myself to shine, induct my beliefs, prioritize myself over others and invest into some effective self-care routines.

3.  Have You Cared And Nourished Yourself?

Questions to ask yourself

How can you tend to yourself with more compassion?

How can I create more room to just be?

Am I taking care of my needs and desires?

Do I say yes when I should say no?

How can I love myself more today?

Am I practicing self-care enough?

Tending to yourself is a necessity of survival. We are often taught by society countlessly to struggle, find a balance, and have a successful life but not exactly how to maintain our mental and physical state.

Through the struggle and in the quest of figuring out your stance, navigating through boundaries, surviving through the turbulent journey of life.

We have to learn to tend to ourself; tending to yourself could be even in the smallest things like:

Creating me time.

Soaking your soul with peace.

Letting go of the limitations of the past.

Indulging in productive routines.

Declaring your worth.

Learning to choose yourself.

Treating yourself with more respect.

Setting and maintaining healthy boundaries.

Uprooting negativity and paving way for positivity.

Prioritizing others over yourself.

Tending for yourself is nurturing yourself, it is a series of commitments. Always endeavor to employ these questions to ask yourself to know you are coping internally and externally.

4.  Are You Embracing And Accepting Changes Or Life Transition?

This is one major empowering question that the Life Compass exposed me to, the arrival of change or the acceptance of a transition life ushered in, has always been a daunting or difficult situation for me to accept. Change drags in a lot -the thoughts of learning, unlearning, letting go, taking more responsibility as reality comes to play makes life scary but the ability to accept it makes living worth it, makes it a blissful adventure.

This is a question you need to continually ask yourself to keep track of the pieces we are failing to move or failing to see.

Life isn’t blissful, it can be very challenging. The change could be in your finance; having increments could be overwhelming and working with your budget could be stressful, we just have to be ready to partake in the adventure life provides.

The truth is we are all playing blank cards in life, we might have an idea of where we intend on ending but we can’t see it until we get there so we hope for the best. Life has its strategy in even checking up before we show our cards.

5.  What Mindsets Are You Pursuing?

What positive thoughts about myself can I focus on?

Where does this thought come from?

Is it mine or someone else?

What can I learn from this thought?

What belief is attached to this thought?

How long have I had this belief?

Where does this belief come from?

Has this belief served its purpose?

Can I let the thought and belief go?

Our minds can be seen as an attractive template; they entice and work with the kind of thoughts we harbor. Developing or nursing a positive mindset is extremely beneficial for your mental and physical health.

There was a time in my journey I had no idea on what a positive mindset was all about, I constantly let my assumptions, fear, insecurities, and limitation take the better part of me. I couldn’t grow, I was too afraid to take risks and chances until I learned to not be pushed, persuaded by the fears in my mind and this was really difficult.Sometimes, I still find negativity lurking around but I know what to channel to discard such thoughts. 

Sometimes all we need is to question our inner narrative. Our minds are the gears to our body, we support the gear to move seamlessly, instead of worrying about what I couldn’t control, I shifted my energy to what I can create and the energy or vibration I give to the situation I experience and with time I started to grow.

I am still a work in progress, still learning and unlearning the intricate lessons of positivity and you can do that any time (smiles).

To stay on track, these are questions to ask yourself when you are approaching a transition, facing a crisis, in a challenging phase or even have no direction about life.

What kind of thoughts am I nursing?

What is my mind geared on?

What direction am I heading to with the stance of my mindset?

Is this a progressive thought?

Am I exercising my mental strength and authority by preserving such thoughts?

What can I be grateful for and positive about right now?

What am I holding on to that I need to let go of?

How am I conditioning my mind?

6.  What Do You Want To Add And What Do You Want To Release?

Am I ready to heal or release this?

Phew! This is a deep question I want you to ask yourself again. I am certain you weren’t focusing on the meaning of the outlined questions. In the struggle of survival, we hold on to several rays of support which could be detrimental to our growth and overhaul our stability.

It could be holding on to a toxic relationship because of the clouded hope for change from the person, it could be letting your family break your boundaries because you don’t want to come off as rude or selfish, it could be seeking external validation to feel good, sabotaging yourself due to your mistakes and experience from the past, holding onto the past as a leverage to build boundaries. Many of us have learned coping mechanisms and survival techniques that kept us safe when we needed them to.

Often, we continue holding onto these tools, even when we are no longer threatened. By honoring the purpose they once served and thanking ourselves for keeping us safe, we need to start letting go of and unlearning what no longer supports us in the way they used to. Don’t cling so tightly to your hurt that you don’t make room for your healing- Lisaoliver

I’ll love to share this tool; it’s an excerpt from Lisaoliver

Ways to tolerate difficult emotions and release negativity:

Practice mindfulness.

Utilize somatic exercise and breathwork.

Implement a self-compassion mantra.

Take a five-minute brisk walk (if this isn’t accessible, do jumping jacks or stretch your arms up and out).

Change your environment.

Ask yourself when you need to add or subtract.

Remind yourself when you are safe.

Create a personalized plan for yourself to reference when you need it.

When Self-Doubt Comes Visiting

Ask yourself– what might I be needing right now? What am I noticing? What might have brought on this feeling?

Remind Yourself– Lots of people experience self-doubt just because I feel this way doesn’t mean it’s true. It’s okay to just notice this feeling right now, and I don’t need to act from it.

Give yourself– Time to feel it, space to explore it, room to get curious about it and freedom to choose how you respond.

In this past 3 months this has been a routine I have been cultivating; releasing toxic energy, negative vibration attracted from my fears, beliefs, limitations, and mistakes through my experience and overcoming a dark phase.

I am creating a release tool that can help you gain a border perspective of your spark, let go of your fears, eliminate self-betrayal, self-sabotage, take full control of your life and dominate positivity. Let’s not spill the secret…..Shh!

7.  What Am I Grateful For Right Now?

Questions to ask yourself

What do you feel thankful to have that others do not have?

What relationships am I thankful for?

How can I be thankful for the challenges that I’ve experienced?

How can I be thankful for the changes that have occurred in my life?

What insights have I gained that I am grateful for?

What do I appreciate and why?

How can I say thank you more?

What opportunities do I have that I am thankful for?

Is there anything I’m taking for granted that I’m grateful for?

Gratitude attracts more happiness, positivity relish good experiences. No matter the phase or situation we find ourselves, there is always a lot to be grateful for, the act of gratitude enables us to grow.

Gratitude is a very important activity that needs to be stitched into our lifestyle; there is so much we take for granted that can spring up more happiness when we choose to see things from that appreciative lens.

8.  What Am I Afraid Of? How Can I Work On These Fears

What am I so scared of that will bring so much pain in my life?

For so long, I was withdrawn and limited by the fears I harbored. Fear seemed to magnify the limitations and challenges that I could overcome.

Fear was me forgetting everything and running instead of facing everything and rising. It took me a while to understand that fear is fuel to success, it is not present to limit you but to push in the direction you want to go. I remember figuring this out to myself and the term fear was just a term that I was in total control of.

Your ability to know and understand breaks the complication.  You have to understand that our fears are negative thoughts that we are constantly engineering to control our minds and until we learn to dominate our minds with positivity, we cannot grow beyond our limitations and fears.

9.  What Is The Meaning Of Life? What Is My Purpose?

This is a very important question to ask yourself especially when there is a transition or a shift. 

So many of us wake up to self-realization in our 30s and 40s and realize we don’t know why we got here and how we got here and we know for sure this is not where we wanted to be years and years ago. In this blog post, I have outlined my personal process that I used in scripting my life to success and will completely change your life. I have as welled created a life directing tool that will enable you unravel your purpose and discover your true value and self- worth. 

10.  How Do I Set Goals And What Goals Should I Set?

What can I change to better support my goal?

Is this the direction I want to be moving in?

Are my recent choices helping my happiness?

In the journey of chasing our dreams, setting goals are a boost of elevation. Goal setting enables us to see what we are accomplishing and analyze how we can accomplish more.

People without goals are not as successful as they hope to be and people who do not write down goals or present evaluating questions to ask are less likely to accomplish their intentions.

My life has totally taken a positive shift from my improved goal setting habits, and in a bid to keep that organized I always ask myself how do I set more goals and even at the roof of success what goals should I set? I have written a blog post here that answers this question as well as shared the best Goal Planner/ Chaser that will enable you crush your set goals and will serve as an ultimate guide in designing a successful life.

Self-awareness and evaluation is a major tool to design a successful life; when self-awareness starts deepening, we begin to understand the influence of our accumulated experience, reclaim our power and navigate through life with ease.

The Courage to be Disliked

 This book makes you think about life from a completely different perspective. Written in a Socratic dialogues, it is easy to understand and feels like you are listening to an insightful conversation.

The Courage to be Disliked made me ponder about life and what it means. I wanted to share with you my The Courage to be Disliked Book Review. Perhaps this book will resonate with you!

Timing is Everything

I was going to the bookstore to get my friend a birthday present. As I was making my way to the check out line, I saw a bookshelf of ‘top 5 books to read this month’ and The Courage to be Disliked was sitting there.

I picked it up, turned it around, and read the back of it. ’hmm…’ I thought. ‘Perhaps I should give it shot.’

2 days later, on a Saturday, I picked up the book and began to read it. I was about 30 pages in when I realized that this might be the greatest book I have ever read.

I continued to sit in the same spot on the couch for the next 5 hours until I read it cover to cover. It’s crazy to think that just a year ago, I had deleted the book because it didn’t resonate with me. Now, I couldn’t imagine not reading it.

I believe that I wasn’t in a place at that time where I needed to hear all of these things. I wasn’t ready, you could say. However, when I finally did read it — it was EXACTLY what I had needed at that moment in time.

Written in a Socratic Dialogue

The book is written in a Socratic dialogue: it means that the style is in the form of an argument — using the question and answer method employed by Socrates.

I can’t even tell you how much I loved this style. It truly made me feel like I was observing a conversation between 2 people and it made me understand the information that much better.

Since I’ve never read a book in this style of writing, my first try reading this book felt confusing. However, after reading a whole book in this style, I now absolutely love the Socratic dialogue!

It makes it easier to understand the information and allows room to shift between the two individual perspectives.

The Youth and the Professor

There are 2 main characters in the book: the Youth and the Professor. The Youth approaches the Professor in hopes of discovering happiness and satisfaction in life. He asks the Professor a series of questions about fulfillment, changing yourself and your life, and happiness.

It’s pretty funny because the Youth challenges the Professor and disagrees with practically every single thing that the Professor says. It made me laugh a few times because it made me think of all the people who could easily put themselves in the shoes of the Youth.

I’ve read a lot of personal growth books in my life, and since I’m a life coach — all the things that the Professor talks about resonate with me completely and there’s a lot of truth and wisdom in his words.

However, I know a lot of people who reminded me of the Youth — argumentative, stuck in their old habitual thoughts and wanting to challenge new information.

So whether you’re someone who’s open-minded and have read a lot of personal growth, spirituality, and self-help books, or you’re someone who’s pretty cynical and closed-minded — I promise you that this book will definitely have something in store for you.

Freedom is Being Disliked by Other People

Philosopher: In short, freedom is being disliked by other people.

Youth: Huh? What was that?

Philosopher: It’s that you are disliked by someone. It is proof that you are exercising your freedom and living in freedom, and a sign that you are living in accordance with your own principles.

Youth: But, but…

Philosopher: It is certainly distressful to be disliked. If possible, one would like to live without being disliked by anyone. One wants to satisfy one’s desire for recognition. But conducting oneself in such a way as to not be disliked by anyone is an extremely unfree way of living, and is also impossible. There is a cost incurred when one wants to exercise one’s freedom. And the cost of freedom in interpersonal relationships is that one is disliked by other people

Oh Damn…

I wanted to share this particular part of the book from page 144 because it blew my mind.

I had never thought of being disliked by other people as me exercising my freedom and living by my own values. This created a complete shift in my mind about doing what I want and not caring about what people think.

More importantly, understanding that being disliked is actually a good thing.

If you were trying to please everyone — you wouldn’t be standing up for something. You wouldn’t be committed to something that is important to you, and you wouldn’t be fulfilling your heart’s desire. When someone dislikes you, it’s a sign that you’re being and living in a way that is true to you.

Kind note: this doesn’t mean that you should be rude, inconsiderate, and disrespectful to others.

That’s not what we’re talking about! We’re talking about following passions that are important to you, having a lifestyle that is meaningful to you, and doing whatever it is that you want to do. Don’t be an a** to other people. That’s not cool.

The Courage to be Disliked Book Review Rating

I rate this book a 10/10 without a shadow of a doubt. I loved it and I shared it with so many people and they loved it just as much as I did.

I want to re-read it once again and do it at a slower pace. Taking in every single page and giving myself some time to ponder & wonder. I truly cannot recommend this book enough!